Liz Dwyer on When the System Keeps You Married #157

🎧 Episode Description

Liz Dwyer joins the podcast to discuss what life looks like when separation doesn’t bring closure. Still legally married six years on, she reflects on the gaps in Ireland’s divorce process and the contradictions of being asked to co-parent calmly while fighting legal battles behind the scenes.

Beyond the courtroom, Liz talks about the coping tools that kept her going, from the books that helped her make sense of what she was living through to the unexpected fun of dating again.

Liz also speaks about later marriage and family-building in Ireland, and her work on the Future Fertility Show, which focuses on education, access, and support around fertility and reproductive health.

Key Points

• Honest discussion about cosmetic and pelvic health treatments — what works and what doesn’t
• Why pelvic floor strength matters more than cosmetic procedures
• How Ireland’s divorce system is slow, opaque, and outdated
• The emotional and financial toll of being stuck in long-term legal limbo
• Lack of transparency and consistency in family court decisions
• Being forced to co-parent while legally positioned as adversaries
• Total absence of structured support for people going through divorce
• Comparison with faster, more straightforward divorce systems abroad
• Dating after separation as an unexpected source of healing and perspective
• The need for real support networks around divorce, fertility, and family change

📚 Mentioned in this Episode

Broken Open – Elizabeth Lesser

A reflective book about how major life upheavals such as divorce, loss, or illness can break familiar structures and open the door to growth, meaning, and change. It explores resilience, identity, and rebuilding after rupture.

Future Fertility Show

A fertility-focused event covering education, clinics, talks, and support services.

📍 Location: RDS, Dublin

📅 Dates: March 21–22

🎟️ Tickets: https://www.futurefertilityshow.com/

Future Beauty Show

A medical-led beauty and health event focused on hormones, wellbeing, and evidence-based education.

📍 Location: RDS, Dublin

📅 Dates: March 21–22

🎟️ Tickets: https://futurebeautyshow.com/

Future Men’s Health Show

An event dedicated to men’s health, hormones, longevity, and wellbeing, developed in response to growing demand for accessible expert-led information.

📍 Location: RDS, Dublin

📅 Dates: March 21–22

🎟️ Tickets: https://www.futuremenshealth.com/

⏱️ Timestamps

03:10 – Trying beauty treatments to give honest advice

06:05 – Why divorce in Ireland is so difficult

14:10 – Court delays and legal limbo

17:45 – Co-parenting pressures

26:30 – Psychological toll of uncertainty

31:10 – Lack of support structures

36:45 – Books and coping tools

45:50 – Dating after separation

50:40 – Future Fertility Show

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