80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza

80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza

Imagine hiding a secret that made you question who you are, if you did something wrong, and causing you to feel like you are not worthy. Now imagine all of this started for you when you were 3, 5, 12. It happened at an age where you were meant to trust an adult, not fear them. All of this weighing on you as you enter into middle school, high school, college, young adult life, and beyond - without anyone know the depth of your secret - that you were physically and sexaully abused. It' not an easy conversation, and that's why we're having it today.

Brian Cardoza, joins me as the two of talk about our experiences of being sexually and physically abused as young me, the toll it has taken on our lives and how we finally found the power to report and talk about it. We know there are many men out there who still struggle to find their voice in this arena so they can be heard, release their pain, and heal. That's why we're having the difficult but necessary conversation today.

About Brian

"We become a Superhero", writes adult Brian Cardoza in a letter to his 6-year-old self. "We are mighty little one. And we are brave." Brian suffered repeated sexual assault and physical abuse as a child. He left home at the age of fifteen, nearly freezing to death the first night on his own. Brian knows the trauma and despair victims must overcome to survive. He not only chose to survive, he chose to give voice to an unspeakable topic and to challenge the stigma and shame often associated with male survivors of abuse.

Now an inspirational speaker, author, and artist, Brian's message is one of responsibility and hope, and he works diligently to raise awareness and money to fight against childhood sexual assault and physical abuse. A believer in the potential to change, Brian's motto, "Don't let this moment dictate the next moment" is familiar to many he inspires.

Brian and his story are featured in a number of national and international projects including a documentary for the EU, Forced, Promise Place's documentary Ripple Effects, The BristleCone Project, and Huffington Post's HuffPost Live segment for Child Abuse Awareness Month. He has been a contributing poet for Purple Sparks and a keynote speaker for a multitude of events highlighting abuse. And he's a certified OVC TTAC Consultant and RAINN Speaker.

Brian's love for art began with drawing as a child. He experimented with different mediums from charcoal to stone sculpting. Stopping for a number of years to focus on culinary endeavors, Brian picked art back up at a time when he felt most alone. Today, Brian's art takes various forms including magnificently colored refurbished bicycles that he donates to children. He's passionate about learning new techniques and styles and the creative process continues to heal the child within.

Brian founded The Broken Knee Club, a non-profit organization created to provide a safe haven for all sexes to comfortably speak out about their experience of childhood and adult sexual assault. In collaboration with others, Brian is building Survivor Knights, a community healing through creative expression. Survivor Knights' exhibits highlight the enormity of the journey from trauma to healing through dark and bright works of art. Brian's words of encouragement to survivors, "Your darkest moments may be the light for another."

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131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart

131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart

Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious judgements from other gay men if you don't have money, money, money. So what's a guy to do? Hookup with money in a powerful way, and dump the rest of that trash talking money gremlin that is eating you alive. Today we're exploring money, the truth about it and the how to make the heart space for it in our lives as gay men with Martin Cowart, founder of Financial Heart Space LLC and the host of Speak’n The Truth About Money with Martin Cowart and Joy the Wise Woman. So dump your excuses and get ready to come to terms with your bitchy money divas and embrace abundance. About Martin Martin Cowart is a spiritual teacher, prosperity and mindset coach, podcast host, and speaker on a mission to eradicate the scarcity mindset from our planet. In 2018, Martin founded Financial Heart Space, LLC to teach and coach gay, transgender and bisexual business leaders how to achieve higher levels of success and make more money by learning to love and accept themselves for being exactly who they are; powerful, loving, creative GBTQ men. Martin developed The Heart Space coaching process to create breakthroughs and transformational results quicker, combining 20 years of mastering shadow work, facilitation skills as a volunteer leader with The ManKind Project, 40+ years of contemplative practice, and a lifetime student of spiritual wisdom and more effectively than other transformational programs. Martin is the host of the podcast and weekly live broadcast on LinkedIn and Facebook; Speak’n The Truth About Money with Martin Cowart and Joy the Wise Woman. Joy the Wise Woman is the name of Martin’s Divine Self, the mystery of life living in heart space. The show is a thirty-minute conversation to examine our negative thinking about money, let go of the false narrative of the scarcity mindset, and share stories of courage to speak the truth about money. Martin has enjoyed various lucrative professional positions. He worked as a CPA, mortgage-backed securities trader (Deutsche Bank), financial planner, investment advisor, wealth manager (Guardian Life, MetLife, and MassMutual), and restaurant owner (Basset Café). However, the job he found most fulfilling had no financial trophies. He had the honor to serve as a member of the leadership team at St. Paul’s Chapel for nine months after the 9/11 attack on the World Trade Center. He discovered we find true happiness in serving others. Connect With Martin Website Facebook Instagram Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/3D4LvaRQjd5EcHWW4nKmQp" target="_blank"...

30 Jul 202136min

130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons

130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons

You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - WRONG, WRONG, WRONG - we are. From coming out, to living our truth, so many people want to tell us how wrong we are and how we've done them wrong. If this is how you are feeling then listen to the podcast to break free from the "You've done me wrong," chains that bind.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

23 Jul 202110min

129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons

129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons

Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, because we have become so used to hiding them that we just don't even realize they are an addiction. As gay men we've become victims, or numb to the gay guilt, the gay shame, that to often we can't even see our addictions for the trees in our lives. Here's a few kicks in the pants to get you off the hidden addictions merry-go-round.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

16 Jul 202110min

128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons

128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons

We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the plate go get that home run you so desperately desire? You've got to stop the bitching and take the action. Grab your self by your man parts and hold on tight as we explore 6 ways to kick yourself in the ass and get moving towards WTF you really want out of life.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

9 Jul 202112min

127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons

127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons

Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the ass. Instead of posting on social media with your shirt off, or your ass half exposed, why not ask yourself this one question "Why do you need that validation?" Noting wrong with wanting to be seen and loved, but how is that helping your confidence and self-esteem in the long run? That's what we're exploring today, so buckle up and learn how to validate and love yourself.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

2 Jul 202110min

126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel

126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel

Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just can't lose weight? Diet, diet, diet. Workout, workout, workout. Yet nothing works and it gets worse as you get older. Well, what if it wasn't that hard and it was more about losing the fat than losing the weight? Dr. Jack Kunkel, swears it's more about fat loss than weight loss, and that's why I decided to ask this straight-handsome hunk (sorry boys, he's not gay) to join us to talk about that pursuit of sexy body, or even a healthier bod by following the principles of his book "It's Fat Loss Not Weight Loss!" Now stop salivating over his picture and take a listen.About JackDr. Jack, is an Alternative Medical Doctor who provides custom and effective solutions for your body and mind by using a three-step strategic approach based on key pillars such as nutrition, exercise, and herbs & whole food supplements.It all started long ago, out of his lifelong passion for wellness and helping everyone around him lead a healthier lifestyle. He knows how to get there because he also struggled. If he can go from a skinny-fat, broken-brained kid to an author, pro-drug-free bodybuilder, motivational speaker, and Doctor, he knows you can do it as well!Sure, his practice is about health and wellness. But, still, he believes there's another dimension to it with unlimited potential. That is the capability to deliver a message of empowerment that shows everyone that they can live a better life if only they put their hearts and minds into it.He aims to inspire his clients to gain courage and motivates them to chase a better and healthier future to be who they are meant to be and do what they are meant to do.His drive and dedication were the fuel that got this dream started. Every single day he strives to put his best effort on the table, working shoulder to shoulder with his valued patients: to help them meet their own nutritional needs, fitness goals and find confidence in themselves, improving their lifestyle and habits, one day at a time.Join him on this quest today! and learn more about the solutions he can deliver to simplify your lifestyle.Connect With JackWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on… <a...

25 Jun 202137min

125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons

125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons

You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. No one, literally no one, simply waves their gay magic wand and finds the perfect balance of love, sex, and infatuation. It takes work, and that work will pay off...if you allow yourself to do the work to define what love, infatuation, and sex mean to you and only you so you know what you are looking for. Let's get clear on what you really want and learn how to move from infatuation to love, without it feeling like struggling to get a condom on.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

18 Jun 202110min

124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons

124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons

Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy gets a hard on and excited about being out at work. And, if you're pushing someone to be out at work, otherwise you're just not gay enough, then you need to sashay away and shut your trap. Everyone deserves to be gay their way, even in the workplace. Here's some tips on how to do that.Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why.Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here!Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologiesP.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/You can also listen to the podcast on…

11 Jun 202110min

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