Deeper Sex - A podcast about deeper connections and incredible sex23 Apr 2025

Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21

Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".

In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour.

Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves.

In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change.

TIME STAMPS

04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected

08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships

12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection?

13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved

16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work

19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship

19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You

22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole

23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle

24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day

Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:

>> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”

Join Chiara's next live workshop "Finally share your secret fantasies without shame or fear"

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