15. Emilia, Part II: The Unknown Heaven

When no one teaches men what love really is — the internet will...In this powerful yet concise reflection, Henrik reads a real email titled “How to Manipulate Women to Get What You Want” — a disturbing glimpse into what young men are being taught online every day.But beneath the noise lies something deeper: a generational wound, passed from father to son, from culture to child.And it’s not just men.On the other side of the algorithm, women are being sold a different illusion — the rise of the “tradwife”, preaching submission and silence as the path to love.Both stories grow from the same root: fear.Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being safe. Fear of being seen.This episode isn’t about blame - it’s about awareness.Because if we, as adults, stay silent, algorithms will raise our sons. Porn will shape their desires.And the line between play and violation, between pleasure and power, will vanish before they even turn twelve.Real masculinity isn’t about control - it’s about safety.Love doesn’t need hierarchy. It needs honesty.Presence heals what performance never can.

9 Okt 7min

What happens when the patterns of our childhood shape every choice we make in love?In this first part of Emilia’s story, we step into a life marked by chaos, longing, and the silent wounds of family history. Together with guest Mor, we explore how many of us “choose a familiar hell rather than an unknown heaven” — and why breaking free can feel harder than staying in pain.✨ A raw story about survival, intimacy, and the search for safety.

29 Sep 40min

In this episode, Henrik sits down with mind-body coach Mor Shavit for an unfiltered conversation about shame, intimacy, and healing. Together they explore how cultural patterns teach women to feel “too much” or “not enough,” and men to see vulnerability as weakness — and how these distortions keep us from real connection.Mor shares her personal journey of self-discovery, her work with inner child healing, and why self-acceptance is the foundation for intimacy. She explains how our earliest survival strategies shape adult love, and how somatic practices — slowing down, syncing breath, listening with curiosity — can rewire old patterns stored in the body.Henrik and Mor also reflect on the courage it takes to feel all emotions, the strength in male vulnerability, and the shared human longing to be truly seen. The episode closes with an invitation: to meet love not from fear, but from presence.✨ “Healing is true intimacy — it’s who we are when conflict arrives.” — Mor Shavit

22 Sep 46min

Andy, originally from New Zealand and now living in London, opens up about his journey with intimacy, vulnerability and what it means to be a man today. From a grounded upbringing to moments of awakening, he reflects on mistakes, lessons and the courage it takes to truly stay present. Together, Andy and Henrik explore how presence, humility and growth can reshape the way we connect — moving beyond ego, into real intimacy

15 Sep 52min

Welcome to a special pit stop of the 34o Podcast. In this episode, I pause to reflect on the powerful journeys we’ve shared so far — stories of intimacy, shame, healing, and presence. I also give you a glimpse of what’s coming next. And I’d love for you to be part of shaping that journey: comment on the episodes, share your reflections, tell me what themes you long to hear more about, or even if you have your own story to share. This isn’t just my podcast — it’s ours. A living conversation we’re building together!And if you’d like to go even deeper, I’ve begun sharing subscriber-only content — guided meditations, intimate practices, and more in-depth interviews and conversations around intimacy. Things like slow sex exercises, breathing meditations, and explorations of presence. If that resonates with you, you’ll find them right here in the podcast.I’d love your input: what do you want more of in future episodes? Vote in the poll — I’m listening!Most of all — thank you for listening, for reflecting, and for being part of this journey

15 Sep 4min

The story of Julia illustrates how shame can silently shape our lives – regardless of cultural background. It shows how old patterns repeat in relationships and how true healing begins with learning to love yourself and finding a home within.One key takeaway is the importance of prioritizing yourself first, then your relationship and partner, and only then your children. Because children learn not from being overprotected, but from witnessing their parents love in a healthy way – and that example helps them grow into strong adults capable of loving right.In this episode, Carrie and Henrik explore Julia’s story of shame, rebuilding and the path toward loving your partner & children by first loving yourself.

8 Sep 38min

Love is not always a feeling – it’s a choice. In this episode of 34o Podcast, Henrik explores what it means to stay when it feels easier to run, to choose presence when fear whispers “escape.” Vulnerability, patience, and honesty become the keys to building deeper intimacy.The reflection is followed by a conversation with Mor Shavit, mindbody coach, who brings her perspective on attachment theory – from avoidant patterns that push love away, to anxious patterns that cling in fear of losing it, and the possibility of growing into secure love. She explains how these patterns show up in the body and shape the way we connect, and how true change begins when we create safety within ourselves first.Together, Henrik and Mor uncover what it means to move from avoidance into presence, from fear into love – and how building secure attachment starts with awareness, self-compassion, and the courage to stay.

1 Sep 36min