Is That Really an Apology—Or Just a Way to Feel Better?
Is your apology really an apology—or just a way to ease your own shame? In this episode, Renee Swanson and I dive into the hidden emotions behind guilt, rage, and “false apologies” that keep us stuck....
13 Aug 202524min
Are You Too Hard on Yourself? Some Preliminary Thoughts on Guilt
Guilt is supposed to help us repair—but what happens when it turns into self-punishment? In this clip, Renee and I explore how guilt gets distorted, how it hides behind over-apologizing, withdrawal, o...
6 Aug 202517min
Let’s Talk—Office Hours Starts this Tuesday!
Sign up here to join the conversation: Reserve your spot and be part of the first session: https://www.drmazzella.com/officehours If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy se...
2 Aug 20251min
When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear
What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandios...
30 Jul 202524min
I Know Why I Get Angry and Defensive—So Why Can’t I Stop?
In this episode, we look at the painful moment so many of us know too well: when you understand why you get angry, defensive, or shut down—and yet, you still do it. We examine this problem through the...
23 Jul 202526min
I Know It’s Small… So Why Does It Hurt So Much?
Why do small letdowns—like a late reply or a minor change of plans—sometimes feel like a gut punch? This episode unpacks how everyday disappointments can stir up deep feelings of shame, rooted in earl...
16 Jul 202527min
Entangled! Pathological Lovers and Malignant Narcissism
Why do toxic relationships feel impossible to leave? In this episode, Dr. Nae and I explore trauma bonds—how narcissistic abuse uses love bombing, control, and betrayal to trap partners. We reveal why...
12 Jul 202541min
How Mindfulness and Psychodynamic Therapy Can Change Your Life
What if the real challenge in healing from narcissism isn’t just the big moments, but the subtle, often invisible patterns shaping your relationships and inner world? In this episode, Lindsey Miller a...
9 Jul 202522min
